Freezing eggs, semen, or embryos is not just a medical decision; it is also a profound emotional process. For many people, preserving their fertility means facing fears, personal questions, and a silent grief for not being ready to start a family in the present.
In this blog, we open a space to validate these emotions, reflect on the desire to be a mother or father, and understand that freezing is also a form of self-care.
The grief of not being ready (and not talking about it)
There is a type of grief that few people talk about: the one experienced when you are not ready to have children, even though you wish to one day. It can feel like frustration, sadness, a feeling of “being late,” or a hard-to-name guilt.
This grief is not necessarily for the loss of a child, but for the dissonance between the desire for motherhood/fatherhood and current circumstances (lack of a partner, professional stability, health, age).
Deciding in advance is an act of self-love
Making the decision to preserve fertility is not an escape, but a conscious way of caring for the future. It is a resource for those who want to live their lives without sacrificing a possible family project.
Freezing eggs, semen, or embryos allows you to:
Reduce the pressure of time and social expectations.
Live in the present without guilt.
Plan motherhood/fatherhood from a more free and realistic place.
Not depend on chance or urgency in the future.
This decision can be even more significant when made from a place of vulnerability, from the acknowledgment that today is not the time, but that doesn’t mean giving up the desire.
Reflections on the desire to be a mother or father
Sometimes the desire to have children does not appear as an urgency, but as a gentle intuition, a possibility one wants to keep open. At other times, that desire is present but the conditions are not right.
Common questions that accompany this process:
What if I later regret not having done it?
What if I feel selfish for prioritizing my personal projects?
What if I can’t become a mother or father when I decide to?
Preserving your fertility does not answer all these questions, but it gives you a real tool to navigate them with greater peace of mind.
The value of psychological support
At Fertidonors, we believe that fertility should be addressed from a comprehensive perspective: medical, emotional, and ethical. That is why our team includes specialized psychological guidance, before and during the cryopreservation process.
This support space helps you to:
Name and validate your emotions without judgment.
Clarify your personal motivations.
Process possible grief or complex decisions.
Emotionally prepare for what is to come.
Freezing is also taking care of yourself
Not all people preserve because they know they want to have children. Some do it because they don’t want to close that door yet.
And that’s okay.
At Fertidonors, you are supported. Our team of specialists in reproductive medicine and psychology is here to listen, guide, and accompany you, without pressure or judgment. Would you like to talk about your options? Schedule your first appointment or write to us.
Preserving your fertility is also preserving your emotional well-being.
